That's right, now say it with me, "Self-care is NOT selfish!" Why do we tend to feel guilty when we make time for ourselves? When we ignore that phone call even when we truly do like that person but just need a moment? When the laundry pile has grown a bit higher and yet we put it off until later? As a society we are so conditioned to hearing the phrase "selfish" that it has begun to lose it's meaning.
Asteya is the third Yama of Patanjali’s 5 Yamas of the Yoga Sutras. It means Non-Stealing. When I was first introduced to book The Yamas & Niyamas: Exploring Yoga's Ethical Practic by Deborah Adele, Asteya jumped off the page and spoke to me. I had always thought of stealing as in something we were taught not to do as a kid but never thought of it as stealing time from myself. That concept blew my mind. I steal from myself all the time! Take a look at the list below and think about the ways in which you could be stealing from yourself:
- Staying up late and being tired the next day
- Eating too much at dinner and feeling bloated
- Procrastinating on that project
Not that any of those things are bad, it is all relative, but can you see how staying up late takes away from your being at your best the following morning? Or how procrastinating only puts off what you have to do for later when maybe at that point you will already have too much on your plate?
Take time to take care of yourself because as a grown up it is YOUR responsibility and only you know what you need to be the best version of yourself. What does it take for you to feel and to act in a way that makes you happy? If you have not spent much time thinking about it why not start today?